Feb 21 2012
Did you know that we have within us four super allies that can help us heal and transform our lives? Some of us have more of one than the other, but when they work together, they are a formidable team. I’ve been aware of these internal forces for the last 3 years on my adventure with cancer, but I didn’t have a name for them until now.
Tom recently attended a training where he learned how to facilitate healing and transformation by using these four archetypes that are within each of us, and in every culture in the world: The Lover, Magician, Warrior, and King. When he told me about them I was excited; it helped me delineate and put a name to these old friends that have been helping me traverse my cancer journey, and life in general.
This week I’m going to Las Vegas for several days with Tom for a family reunion with his 7 brothers and sisters and possibly their spouses/partners. I look forward to spending time with these wonderful people. However, this trip challenges me for a number of reasons. Therefore, I’ve decided to enlist my 4 super allies in transforming my fears into fun! Here’s how:
Description: This ally gently guides us in facing, feeling, and embracing whatever’s happening. It welcomes, listens, nurtures, and asks questions like, “What are you feeling right now? What’s happening inside you?” The energy of The Lover invites a deepening into what we’re experiencing. It doesn’t want to ‘fix’ us; it only wants to hold us in a spacious embrace of love, acceptance, and discovery as we follow, allow, and unwind whatever is happening. It’s usually best that this ally be the first one we enlist when we begin exploring our issue because it brings us to the heart of the matter.
Example: I check in with myself, asking, “What are you feeling about going to Vegas?” As I explore this, I’m aware of feeling concerned that I’ll be stressed, over-stimulated, and depleted by the big energy of the Vegas trip. I’m afraid the stress will suppress my immune system and trigger my cancer, which seems quiet and/or dormant right now. I don’t want to awaken the beast!
Speaking of beasts, as I go deeper I’m aware of another fear I have: when I’m stressed, my ‘Jan-dora’s’ box of embarrassing personas has been known to burst open and out pours the likes of Ms. Huffyton, Chopped Liver, The Incredible Sulk, Miss Fit, and the dreaded…Ms. Thunderfull! Oh my!
My Lover ally smiles knowingly, and embraces all these many me’s, all the meany, moody, messy me’s. When these characters aren’t invited to the party, they tend to crash it. The Lover welcomes all the many me’s with open arms.
Description: This ally has the super power of imagination, vision, creativity, and thinking outside the box. It shows us new possibilities, new ways of seeing things, new ways of being. It invites us to imagine, “Who would I be without this issue, this fear, this story I tell myself?”
Example: I’m visualizing myself in Vegas having a wonderful time. I see and feel myself being centered, relaxed, and happy, playfully being with whatever, and whoever, shows up. I imagine myself enthusiastically telling friends after the trip, “I had a great time! It was not only fun, but it was healing as well.” My Magician energy is helping me envision this as if it is already so. And so it is.
Description: This super ally confronts, takes action, and gets things done. It is firm, direct, practical, and purposeful. It asks questions like, “What needs to happen here?”
Example: I ask myself, “What do I need to do to help myself stay calm and centered?” Here’s the action plan I’ve come up with: When I’m in Vegas, I will take 10 deep abdominal breaths throughout the day. That triggers my Vagus nerve (how appropriate for Vegas!), which in turn triggers my immune system and my relaxation response. I will also dance and wiggle my pelvis like Elvis every day for at least ten minutes to reduce tension.
I plan on allowing myself plenty of time to take space, rest, and recharge my energy while there. I’ve already talked to Tom about exchanging lots of relaxing oxytocin hugs, and keeping the lines of communication open, clearing the air as we go along. (I find that when I sweep things under the rug, I end up getting the rug pulled out from under me!)
Description: This is our higher self. It is the energy of love and joy. This super ally encourages us to: “Remember who you are. Remember that you are a beautiful soul. Remember that you are loved and guided and safe, no matter what. Remember that you are on a mission to discover and express your inherent magnificence.” It sees the higher truth and the deeper meaning in everything. It wants to be of service to self and others.
Example: As I tune into my higher self and see the Vegas trip from my soul’s eye view, I see that it is a perfect opportunity to practice being fully present in the midst of big energy, to keep coming home to my heart, breathing through my heart, seeing myself and others, even Vegas, from this higher perspective. “Namaste Vegas — the higher being in me sees the higher being in you.” I intend to look for the joy and beauty in everything around me.
Viva Las Vegas, and Viva the Lover, Magician, Warrior, and King! Accompanied and aided by these four formidable allies (and the fantastic Tom), I plan on having the time of my life!
Are you aware of these powerful allies in your life? How are they helping you heal and transform into your highest self and live your best life?